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Fifty Shades of Writing

Think you need a great imagination to be a writer? not necessarily. However what you do need is courage to shovel all of your secret thoughts “out,” and be prepared for the “action” to take place. Never dumb yourself down.

What genre sells? Good question. I don’t really think anyone has the real answer to this one, and it’s certainly NOT one genre is popular with the world, but what I do know is this… people love being shocked & terrified They love to be made to “feel” something or moved by a story or novel.

You can write about anything you like and make it a moving experience, where it grips the reader.  Take the novel “Fifty Shades of Grey.” Yes I read it, and my opinion of the story seemed like “Mills & Boon” with sex.

Perhaps they felt the book was so poorly written that they had to make a movie out of it just to give it an extra push. Seriously one of my favourite movies is “Gone With the Wind,” not because of my age. The story had depth and precision, not to mention the beautiful costumes of the time, and it made the imagination work.

Anyhow, I’m not giving away all of my secrets of passion just yet because I would like your feedback.

*  Have you

*  Ever wanted to be a writer

*  Need the Courage to start

*  Worried about bad grammar & spelling

*  Worried about what people will think if you write about your secret passions

Once you’ve read my book “Things I Did When No one was watching,” you’ll find the courage to begin your journey as a writer. Emotions don’t usually go anywhere, no one ever see’s them, they’re invisible. I use my emotions to create they are a tool of the trade. Allow them flow freely.

New trailer to the movie “Fifty Shades of Grey.”

I love honest feedback so go on don’t leave me to talk to myself here…

Watch Trailer here

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The Seven Points To Success

The last chapter of my book explains how we become “locked in” to giving other people all our time and attention. Incorporated in my last chapter will be “The Seven Points to Success…..


*  Connect to your AWESOME self

*  Become SELFISH


*  Make yourself VISIBLE


*  Never allow Others to STEAL YOUR TIME

*  Don’t Get Mad Get EVEN

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The Person Who Will Change Your Life Is YOU

The reason for creating this blog, was to share some of life’s experiences which gave me inspiration to become a writer and author. So much of what I write about, will resonate with many of you, in knowing life can appear to be simple, yet it is not for so many of us who continuously face financial hardship, loneliness, phobia’s caused by stress and trauma, and a “bum steer” which began my life’s journey has taught me so much – mainly about “myself good and not so good,” those experiences have been my measuring stick and stepping stones to some of the wisdom I have gleaned over time.

I am not much different to you, the only difference lies in the fact that I had decided to share my pain and struggle, and not to keep quiet about it. Most of all, I have finally had the courage to overcome “dyslexia, ADHD and my traumatic past life.  It has taken me years upon years just to get this far in having the courage within to step outside myself and my known comfort zones to allow myself permission to be heard.

Growing a “thick skin” is something I needed to obtain in order to put my vulnerable self out there knowing I am exposed to judgment, ridicule, and mockery. Indeed I had to actually “LEARN” to love “ME.” I needed to realise that I too was as important to this existence as anyone I had put above my own needs and opinions. Women are often very good at becoming invisible, we do this well. The old belief system where society insisted pressurising women to put others needs before their own, allowed our male counterparts to shirk these qualities that women have taken soul charge of through their need to feel adequate as a human beings. We can fall into this trap in different ways. As you will read in my new book “The Things I did When No One Was Watching.” The last story about “Joyce” and the lessons learned where my own guilt of never feeling worthy of my own existence caused me to fall down a pit hole. It was not until I had realised that my efforts had been in vain, did I stop and see that it was a case of “the blind leading the blind.” I was in no position to help Joyce, because I had not allowed me to help me first, therefore as most people who need help themselves, they get into bother trying to help others.. sound familiar?”

I had not acknowledged self. I used the mirror to put on make up and do my hair, never really taking special time out to really connect with that person who had become invisible. The one I had neglected, wanted to be my hero but I had ignored her needs, hushing her up, telling her she was not the focus of attention. This was the person who was eventually going to change my life. She was under my nose all along, how did I not see her?

How I connected to self and became visible “yes visible.” When we don’t see ourselves we others become more important and we loose ourselves in the overgrowth. Use a mirror to find yourself, thats the real tool. the person who will change your life is looking back at you in a mirror!

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New Light Through Old Windows

I often wonder how many who have reached 50+ view their lives upon looking back in time? I’m begining to think all our lives are lived whilst upon the earth. I asked my 87 year old mother the other day. “Imagine if someone had walked into the bookstore where you were working when you were 19 – handed you a pair of magical binoculars that gave you an exact insight beyond the next 60 years of your life.”

Imagine seeing yourself walking around a Westfield shopping mall and seeing people everywhere on mobile phones and walking into a cafe with a middle – aged woman with greying hair.  ”Who on earth is this older woman?” you blurt. “Your daughter.” Like the film “Back to the Future, starring Michael J Fox.  If we could see ahead I’m sure most of us couldn’t get our head around it. We are all living in the moment whether we know it or not.

So now I have come to a point in time where I can look back on my own life like chapters of a book, or different lives. This has given me such a great insight into writing fiction based on truth. Three years ago I began writing an autobiography. It became almost impossible continuing to write it, therefore I put it aside. I had realised that no one apart from my family  really knew who I was, and publishing a bio wouldn’t  do much for me or anyone else. (The full bio can wait)

A Bit At A Time

Having several books to write keeps you focused on yourself and as selfish as that sounds it really isn’t. By being focused on oneself in a healthy manner enables you to help others just by simply sharing what you have experienced good and bad and all the bits in between. This makes for compelling writing in my own opinion. As I mentioned. by chopping up my autobiography into individual books based on my own life’s events over the past 58 years, it’s giving me more work to do, a bit at a time, instead of a whole bio, then – what do I write about after I have completed it?

If you want to be a well known writer I suggest you begin writing novels taken from your real life events. It may include pets, family or why not make it really fun and write a colourful novel about the black sheep of the family, perhaps it was you, “even better.” All your writing material is within your life chapters, and anyone can do it. All you need is a blog like this one too get yourself out there. Once you have written books and articles your autobiography may be interesting to those who have enjoyed reading your previous material.

Some of you may know the struggles I had in the dim dark ages of an archaic school system which didn’t support female students, and lefthandedness was seen as a social crime, as with anyone suffering from ADHD  and Dyslexia in which there was no knowledge of in those days. Then being marched off to the commonly known term back then “the Murderhouse.”

Instead I decided to take parts out of the chapters of my life and turn them into short stories, and illustrated novels. (perhaps the full bio can wait a while)

In the meantime I would like your thoughts on this article. Do you have something to add to this?

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